He stopped talking to us

At the age of 14-15, the teenager can strongly reduce communication with parents. But, as the Children’s Psychotherapist Daniel Marcelli explains (Daniel Marcelli) *, it’s rather a good sign.

"He returns from school with a gloomy face, will burst something in response to the question" How are you?"And immediately closes in her room, so that you stop further conversations. Disappointed and upset contact loss with their own child, parents worry about what he can have problems. But how to help if he says nothing?

However, there is no reason for concern, if, of course, this silence does not last for several months. Teenagers need a distance in relationships with parents – after all, now they are more important to feel independent, special.

He stopped talking to us

And in our words, in our care they see only the desire to subordinate them to themselves, extend their childhood. And they are hiding physically ("You do not know where I") and mentally ("You don’t know what I think"). Do not talk with parents means to build a impenetrable wall, to be inaccessible to their look. However, it often happens that teenagers, refusing to talk to the family, are actively discussing their affairs with their parents, with uncle or grandmother, with a coach. Wonderful if your son or daughter has trusted faces among other adults: such communication allows them to learn different opinions, it is better to understand their position, and in addition, the child will be able to support and protect it in the event of problems.

Some adolescents talk little with adults only because those truly are interested only in their assessments. At this age there are more important topics! Finally, there are families in which it is not accepted to talk a lot, or, on the contrary,, in which it is simply impossible to insert the word. Teen unconsciously copies the style of behavior of his parents or reacts in the opposite way, tired of adult talks. It all depends on the quality of relations connecting it with their parents, and from their ability to listen ".

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